Balance versus Extremes

When we talk about balance, we are automatically talking about imbalance as well. There would be no point to discussing balance if we did not believe that there was also such a thing as imbalance. What is balance? And who benefits from it? Usually when we talk about balance we mean something that is ego-related. We are talking about a narrow form of balance that suits a particular person, a particular group or a particular condition. The object consciousness state of mind is the state of mind in which we always demand balance, because with object consciousness we always reach a moment where things become either too much or too little. It reaches an extreme. Object conscious is an imbalanced state of mind. It does not reflect reality so we bring in balance to adjust or amend this seeming lack of reality. But reality is always balanced in the sense that it is actually beyond the idea of balance. It doesn’t make sense to talk about balance in terms of reality. Balance is something invented or taught by the mind because it is the mind that experiences imbalance. Balance is natural but object consciousness is not and therefore it needs to bring balance in for its own benefit. When things get tough in our lives, we say things like “step out of it” or “give yourself a break.” We want to counteract whatever we experience in order to escape from that experience. All of that is necessary because of our object consciousness state of the mind. It is forever in search of balance.

Balance means stability, certainty, safety and peace. To be in balance means that we do not lose ourselves to one extreme or the other. Balance always reflects a middle way. How do we create balance in our life and what is the essence of this balance on the human level? I believe that in this world the essence of balance can be found in trust.

When we have trust we automatically experience balance. That is why trust works. Trust is entirely subject! Object consciousness sees trust as something that is at least fifty percent object-related and thus judges trust as unreliable. Of course, trust in an object is always unreliable because objects change all the time and are thus beyond our control. But when we take SRA we do not focus on any object of trust or faith. On the contrary we are aware of the fact that trust is totally an inner quality that starts with ourselves. It is always and forever our choice! When we take SRA we automatically have trust and because of that trust, we naturally have balance as well. Taking SRA is a choice and when we take SRA we hold the key to our own joy and peace. It is always within us. This means that trust is always with us as well. As a consequence, we are always balanced. SRA goes hand-in-hand with balance and trust.

We must remember, however, that our dominant state of mind, the object consciousness, is an extreme state of mind. When we are at the extremes we have given up the center. We are moving away from what is real. Extreme means heading in a direction away from reality. The object consciousness mind is an extreme mind. It is constantly acting and counteracting. It is from this yo-yo state of mind that we so desperately seek balance. The problem is that we first look for it at the level of object. We look outside ourselves. Object consciousness is where our ego resides and because of that we usually act selfishly. Our definition of balance in a given situation is completely determined by our judgment of what fits best at that time. Thus, its quality is extreme rather than balanced.

We may also believe that we know what would be the right balance for others. Every now and then we may even use balance as an excuse for not acting on behalf of others – either by refusing to help them or by not giving to them. The object conscious state of mind is an imbalanced state of mind so we can be certain that when we think of balance from this state, we are doing it from a narrow, or extreme, perspective which has precious little trust. It is possible that in the name of balance we may be overprotecting ourselves which will impair our ability to see another’s needs.

Balance is an inner quality. It is inherent in what we are. We already have it. There is no need to demand balance from external sources. Therefore it is of utmost importance that when we demand balance from a situation, we force ourselves to be brutally honest about who will benefit and who and what has to change. Are we making an external demand? We are if we are in the state of object consciousness. But if we have inner balance then there is no need to create outer balance. Outer balance will automatically be present to us. However, trying to create outer balance first will always be limited. It will be ego-centered and will never create true inner balance. Balance is like a tree that is sweeping in the wind. It goes from one end to the other and yet remains deeply rooted from its center. That is the quality of balance that we possess when we take SRA. If the tree were not flexible, it would break and lose its balance. The same is true of us. If we are too rigid in our thinking and lack tolerance for the world then we will lose our fundamental balance. Very often we mistake tolerance for being extreme while in fact it is the lack of tolerance that is extreme. We can only see all sides if we are tolerant. There can be no balance without flexibility or tolerance. With balance there is always trust and this allows us to be tolerant. The moment we lose our tolerance is the moment we lose our balance.

Thus, when we take SRA we take responsibility for inner balance which naturally brings about outer balance as well. Then we will have more space for ourselves and for others. Why? Because we are redefining our presumptions about what balance should look like externally. The highest form of balance is seeing the totality of reality and not taking sides. Rather, we let all sides be.

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